This time of year is often portrayed as a time of togetherness, joy, and celebration. However, for many people, it can also be a time that triggers loneliness, stress, and anxiety. So, let’s take a few moments to learn how to put our mental health front and center this holiday season so we can have a positive as well as meaningful experience.
Recognizing the Challenges:
While the holiday season has the potential to bring happiness and excitement, it also may intensify existing mental health issues and/or introduce new stressors.
Common challenges:
1. Increased expectations:
The pressure to create the perfect experiences/traditions may lead to feelings of overwhelm and inadequacy.
2. Loneliness and grief:
For some, the holidays are reminders of lost loved ones or family and friends we are separated from. For this reason, the holiday season can intensify feelings of sadness, loneliness and longing.
3. Financial strain:
The financial demands associated with gift-giving, travel, decor, hosting get togethers, and holiday meals can put a strain on individuals and families, leading to stress and anxiety.
4. Social obligations:
The flurry of social engagements can be overwhelming and exhausting for individuals who struggle with social anxiety or introversion which can lead to additional stress.
Strategies for Prioritizing Mental Health:
1. Set realistic expectations:
Instead of striving for perfection, focus on creating meaningful and memorable moments. It may not be your ideal but it’s “good enough.” Strive to set realistic goals, delegate tasks when you can, and be kind to yourself if things don’t go exactly as planned. Ask yourself what really matters. Perfection or family fun and memories? I bet every single one of your friends and family will say fun memories so keep that in mind when you start putting pressure on yourself.
2. Practice self-care:
Prioritize self-care activities that replenish your mind, body, and soul. This might come in the form of taking breaks when needed, engaging in activities you enjoy, and ensuring you get enough rest and relaxation. For example, I break my holiday baking up because more than 2 hours in the kitchen is too much for me. In fact, I don’t do anything that takes more than 2 hours in one sitting. The break is much needed and helps me to regroup.
3. Manage finances wisely:
Set a budget for holiday expenses and stick to it. I know this is easier said than done but trust me, it’s worth it in the end! Make it a game if that makes it more fun. Who can get the most thoughtful gift for under budget? Consider alternative ways to show love and appreciation, such as homemade gifts or quality time spent together, rather than solely relying on material possessions. If you are a baker make baked goods or a book of recipes, a crafter, craft something, an artist, create a drawing, a photographer, make a photo album. You get the point. Be creative.
4. Seek support and connection
If you’re feeling lonely or grieving this holiday season, reach out to friends and family you can count on or a mental health professional. Connecting with others can provide comfort and a sense of belonging. Who knows, maybe they are feeling the same way and are relieved to know they are not alone. Don’t be afraid to share your story, you may help someone as much as they help you!
5. Practice gratitude and mindfulness:
Practicing gratitude and being present in the moment can help shift your focus to the positive this holiday season. Take a few minutes each day to reflect on what you are grateful for. It will reduce stress and create a better sense of well-being.
6. Set boundaries
This is a big one for me. I tend to get overwhelmed this time of year and too many outside obligations is a no-no for me. Set boundaries to protect your mental health during this hectic time. Learn to say no when necessary and prioritize activities that align with your ideals and traditions.
7. Give back:
Consider volunteering or engaging in acts of kindness during the holidays. Helping others brings a sense of purpose, fulfillment, and joy. This in turn, positively impacts your own mental health.
As the holiday season unfolds, let this be your reminder that YOUR mental health matters. Prioritize your well-being this holiday season with the strategies above and remember that it’s okay to ask for help when needed. My wish for the Small Daily Habits community is that this holiday season be one of healing, connection, and self-discovery. Let’s kick off December with a challenge for the day. Do one small thing that makes a big difference to your mental health today. Then email about it to let me know what your plans are or how it made you feel once you got it done. If you need other ideas I go more in depth about self-care here.
Don’t forget, I also offer coaching if you need some extra support this holiday season or in the new year. Tell me your goals. I’m here to help you reach them big or small! Check out my options here and here. Not sure what you need exactly, email me back and we can set up a time to chat for 15-20 minutes about where you are now and where you wish to be in 2024.
Enjoy your weekend!
Wishing you much love, health, and happiness,
Christine
